We all have choices in our lives; some are good and others aren’t. But when we choose to give up responsibility and control, it is usually because we are blaming negative circumstances for our place in life. This mindset of self-pity is an excessive, self-absorbed unhappiness over one’s own troubles. This mentality says, “Woe is me,” and cries foul at every turn. As a consequence, you see yourself as a victim who has done no wrong, believing everything is against you and everyone else is to blame.

When you are unwilling to take responsibility for your decisions, you will never be able to grow or move forward in life. It’s amazing how self-absorbed our society has become as a result of this behavior pattern. Not only is this unproductive, but also very destructive. On the other hand, many others have overcome who also had to deal with negative circumstances. The difference between those who succeed and those who don’t is their attitude and resolve to make good choices — resisting self-pity.

You might say, “Well, you don’t know what has happened to me or what someone has done to me.” Although that may be true, with God’s help, you can choose to move forward and overcome. If you want to see better results in life, quit complaining and blaming others for your circumstances. Otherwise, you will never discover the answers or the solutions to your issues. Therefore, choose to move forward —not by blaming nor by complaining, but by being grateful and learning to forgive (see Zechariah 4:6-7).

Just a Thought,

PSS